tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post6511522255913027848..comments2024-02-14T16:55:38.267+11:00Comments on chunkychooky: Pincushions and mothering....Cath @ chunkychookyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07926661077860579075noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-62936062886382568752010-04-13T13:19:53.221+10:002010-04-13T13:19:53.221+10:00I understand totally what you are saying. Thats w...I understand totally what you are saying. Thats why I pulled back this year. There is always time for everything else...but the kiddies they do seem to fly away so fast.Leonie Guldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09787448815326799495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-30741901762769969122010-04-13T09:08:51.965+10:002010-04-13T09:08:51.965+10:00Your pincushion looks fantastic.
On the topic of ...Your pincushion looks fantastic.<br /><br />On the topic of parenting I was having a conversation with a woman at the gym the other day as we stood in line for a class... she was telling me about how her children are now 18 and 20 and don't need her anymore. For eighteen years she had given up being herself so that she could devote herself entirely to them. She was confiding in me how she doesn't know who she is and that that coupled with going through menapause is just horrid. Her life is all about finding herself again. I suspect, by her tone, that she resented her children a little bit too for not needing her anymore.<br />It struck me, as I felt guilty about dashing off to the gym, that perhaps I was doing the right thing for everyone because I was still finding time for me.<br />Busy learns so much from you - including how to balance competing aspects of life. If she becomes a mother one day it will be invaluable to her to know that she doesn't have to be a self-sacficing martyr ... she will have learnt that from you!Sallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05131518522010494497noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-87193997432907425512010-04-12T14:05:14.787+10:002010-04-12T14:05:14.787+10:00Yay, the pin cushion looks ace! Can't wait to ...Yay, the pin cushion looks ace! Can't wait to see what you create for Leonie.<br />So much about parenting is hard and the guilt involved doesn't help. Someone once told me that the first few years of a child's life are about the parents' and the child's survival and I get this. Between caring for them, our relationships with our partners and our own identities, there's a lot to juggle. She looks gorgeous and so happy. I'm sure she thinks you are the best Mum in the world. XKatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04234467488696653117noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-72442723048965866512010-04-12T10:11:51.242+10:002010-04-12T10:11:51.242+10:00Mother guilt is a cruel thing!
To be a good mum, y...Mother guilt is a cruel thing!<br />To be a good mum, you do need to do what you enjoy as well. It's important (for me anyway) to have time for myself (other than betwwen 8pm and 1am!).<br />Love the pin cushion too.<br />Mine is ready to post off today.ZippyZippyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06671751303934308368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-60818343176703262632010-04-12T09:43:12.815+10:002010-04-12T09:43:12.815+10:00Oh Sweet Thing - it seems you've struck a bit ...Oh Sweet Thing - it seems you've struck a bit of vein here - look at all the Mummys jumping in!<br /><br />Unlike you, I don't have an amazing business that is going from strength to strength, but I do feel as though there aren't enough hours in the day, and I do wonder how other Mums (Super Mums, to me) manage to do the sorts of things that you do, ie run a business, make things, blog about it all & nurture their wee one.<br /><br />I have grand ideas about all of the above, but I fear that is all they will ever be, it's that damn Mother Guilt we all have isn't it? I don't think men feel it the same at all - I know mine doesn't, but we are forever second guessing ourselves & worrying & feeling guilty when, really, don't we already have enough on our plates...?<br /><br />You are right about being the only one to answer the question "Did I miss out? Did I do enough?", but my dear, I honestly believe that the fact that you are even worried about it means that you are doing all you can right now... and come now, how happy & content is that sweet face?!<br /><br />((hugs))Vichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00036114016276478304noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-91789867139873195612010-04-12T09:40:48.615+10:002010-04-12T09:40:48.615+10:00You know how I know you are an awesome mum? You qu...You know how I know you are an awesome mum? You question what you do and how you do it. And sometimes we do that because we need to change what we are doing, or because we are, indeed, doing the best we can and we just need to remind ourselves that. <br /><br />Your doing a fab job! Both as a mother and as a small craft business owner. Well done!! xoxBianca Jae Makes Stuffhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06335790203345753096noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-48902852397072169652010-04-12T09:34:59.278+10:002010-04-12T09:34:59.278+10:00Love that joyous bath shot, what a happy little ch...Love that joyous bath shot, what a happy little chook. I think you are a great & loving mum, your daughter's face shows this! Parenting is a big job, we make mistakes, we don't do it perfectly but we should also be more forgiving of ourselves. That special time with your Busy, whether it's in the bath or wherever, is what matters. Keep up the good work honey, loving your baby is the most important part xoBeckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12223830744313086743noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-63329895755780458262010-04-12T09:34:49.743+10:002010-04-12T09:34:49.743+10:00"squidgy little body" eeeeeeek. The cu..."squidgy little body" eeeeeeek. The cuteness!!!!flossy-phttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15207372419069284680noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-25577446291430160602010-04-12T09:24:09.555+10:002010-04-12T09:24:09.555+10:00Hey Cath. GORGEOUS pincushion.
I'm full-time ...Hey Cath. GORGEOUS pincushion.<br /><br />I'm full-time at home but often feel like the cruddy parent when I see some of my friends who work being far more deliberate with 'spending quality time' with their kids when I just leave mine to their own devices a lot.(Do working parents have more energy and focus after being away? or is it a need to "make up" for working? why am I so slack? etc etc)<br /><br />Go and read this article and have a good laugh and feel less guilty!<br />http://www.telegraph.co.uk/family/familyadvice/3355719/Idle-parenting-means-happy-children.htmlGinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06422492795264972573noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-45022406352084898192010-04-12T08:26:05.920+10:002010-04-12T08:26:05.920+10:00theres a great book called 'buddhism for mothe...theres a great book called 'buddhism for mothers' by sarah napthali that addresses such things as 'mothers guilt' very interesting, and helpfull. busy looks like a very happy, very loved girly! good job cath!bechttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14801026762037791951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-80712848413033021432010-04-12T07:24:51.214+10:002010-04-12T07:24:51.214+10:00I feel the guilt too! I have come to realise in t...I feel the guilt too! I have come to realise in the very short time I have been a Mumma that Mother = Guilt. It doesn’t matter how well you do it, there will always be something to find to fell guilty about. Try not to stress; I am sure you are doing a splendid job!!!! That happy healthy little face is all the evidence I need.<br />ps the pin cushion look great, I have my fingers crossed that I can get mine finished today.Chasing Purple Dreamshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11480966080150769554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-89491047496339202562010-04-12T07:04:25.321+10:002010-04-12T07:04:25.321+10:00I feel the same sometimes (all the time??) Glad to...I feel the same sometimes (all the time??) Glad to see I'm not the only one. I feel guilty that I want to be doing something else while I'm playing with the kids. Can I sew/knit while watching them on the trampoline, can I look at a craft book while playing lego...always trying to do two things at once.Chicken Willowhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17759876024082449592noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-7894779847720516362010-04-11T20:31:11.366+10:002010-04-11T20:31:11.366+10:00mums & guilt! does it get passed on from one g...mums & guilt! does it get passed on from one generation to the next.<br />I bet most mums get the nagging feeling in their stomach that they just haven't done enough .<br />I bet we all do a marvelous job & we should stop doubting ourselves.<br />enjoy the giggles & cuddles and all the little bits in between, you sound like a fabulous mum.<br />hugs <br />♥Cathiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13907149329120730070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-6242743932657099122010-04-11T20:31:06.304+10:002010-04-11T20:31:06.304+10:00Oh i meant sunday night "bath" ... perha...Oh i meant sunday night "bath" ... perhaps I was thinking of dinner in the bath? ;)Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00310824411609745841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-48736718564020977772010-04-11T20:30:06.546+10:002010-04-11T20:30:06.546+10:00Sounds (and looks) to me like you are doing a fab ...Sounds (and looks) to me like you are doing a fab job. Love the idea of the Sunday night dinner. I keep reminding myself that it's as important for my kids to see me doing something I love (sewing, crochet, knitting whatever) as it is to sit down with them and play the stuff they love. I'm with the first comment - if you're asking the question, you're already ace!Melhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00310824411609745841noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-63587207513448034222010-04-11T20:03:48.433+10:002010-04-11T20:03:48.433+10:00It's so hard to live up to our own expectation...It's so hard to live up to our own expectations of perfect parenting.<br />I try to remind myself that when they're grown, they'll remember all the love ... and not so much the nagging and disciplining .... that we still have to do.Andihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04494036247908661426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-76649342817651492262010-04-11T19:55:11.750+10:002010-04-11T19:55:11.750+10:00I'm with you, they are a treasure that bring s...I'm with you, they are a treasure that bring so much joy & sunshine every day! (minus the tantrums). I think we all feel guilty about whether we've done enough in a day to make our babies happy & content...I think we do, i suppose we'll always think we should have done more...but just look at that happy face, & bath time with mum, a priceless, treasured time...and that's just one, I bet she sees every day as a whole lot of those moments! Good job mama!mel @ loved handmadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11089482748571082995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1435525396415770169.post-42983892649519572162010-04-11T19:34:16.749+10:002010-04-11T19:34:16.749+10:00Look at that little face- seems to me that's a...Look at that little face- seems to me that's a happy littel child. But i struggle with the same questions. I'm always doing a million things when I'm with the kids, and I worry that i'll look back and wonder why I didn't just slow down and BE... I notice that both grandmothers are excellent at getting down on the floor and just playing for hours.But i wonder whetherthey managed that when the kids were small. <br /><br />My new system is trying to actively take 30 minutes out at a time - check the clock, and really be present, playing, until that clock time is up. I am disturbed by the fact that this isn't that easy, and I struggle to do it every day...<br /><br />But 'what-if' is part of teh mothering manual I think. Just the fact that you are asking the question 'how can I be a better mum' makes you one. Don't you think?<br /><br />xxRachael @Mogantoshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07284324325966835237noreply@blogger.com